SHAMELESS by Vanillacooldance

SHAMELESS by Vanillacooldance

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SHAMELESS by Vanillacooldance
SHAMELESS by Vanillacooldance
How to go from Silent to Shameless in the Bedroom 🔥

How to go from Silent to Shameless in the Bedroom 🔥

When I learned how to speak up for my pleasure, everything changed. Now I'm sharing what I've learned. Including a 15 minute recording with my own roadmap to sexual empowerment.

Aug 20, 2024
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Hi Cool Dancers!

Last week, I shared a deeply personal letter about my dry spell. This week, I'm excited to take you through my journey from feeling insecure, quiet, and disempowered in the bedroom to confidently advocating for my pleasure.

Read on for:

  • My dream date gone wrong

  • Tips on how you can communicate your desires and boundaries effectively

  • How our own insecurities get in the way of ultimate pleasure

  • A 15 minute recording of my personal roadmap to empowerment. In it, I share my journey from silent to shameless and how I learned to communicate my desires.

Whatever your relationship status, gender, or sexual orientation, this is for you.

But first, let me tell you about my date…

The whole thing started out great. Our chemistry was undeniable. Of all the shitty dates I’ve had in the past (IYKYK), this one was going places. And by that, I mean the bedroom. As we passionately kissed, he lifted me up, walked me into his room, and threw me on the bed.

And that's when my romantic, sweet, and charming suitor turned into Patrick Bateman from American Psycho.

Bam! He started ramming into me from behind like he had a point to prove. He was contorting my body like I was a puppet, completely disconnected from me—it felt like I might as well have had a paper bag over my face.

After we were done, or rather, after he was done…he rolled off of me, gave me a quick peck on the cheek, and stared up at the ceiling with a silly smile plastered on his face.

“I'm pretty sure you came.”
He said.

I'm pretty sure I didn’t.

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So what did I do? Did I say, “Hey dude, you can't just ram into somebody from behind and expect them to orgasm”?

Of course not. I said nothing and instead, I bitched about it to my girlfriends over brunch the next day. Very SATC.

Now, why didn't I speak up? Why didn't I say MY PLEASURE IS VALID? Well, as a woman, I never learned my pleasure was valid. How could I know that I should speak up? This is where shame, insecurities, and society's expectations come into play.

Well, fuck that. I will not be a passenger in my own sex life anymore, and neither will you.

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Watch the video below for my personal roadmap to empowerment. In it, I share my journey from silent to shameless and how I learned to communicate my desires. I’m also sharing some of my top tips, including how to:

  • Understand your own pleasure better

  • Communicate openly with your partner

  • Overcome insecurities that sabotage pleasure

I’ll be doing an exclusive Q&A in the comments to answer any specific questions you have. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences! Let’s start this conversation together 🤩. See you there!

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